80/20 Rule

so for the past few months i've been following updates on the web on this Taiwan based actor named Wu Chun (you should know him by now, i've posted his pics several times already) and recently he updated his blog in Fahrenciti by posting about the 80/20 Rule. he got it from this blog http://akssara.blogspot.com/. here is what it says:

80/20 Rule

Interesting quote from the movie "Why did I get Married?"

In most cases, especially in relationships, you
will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will
hardly get the other 20% of what you WANT in your
relationship. There is always another person (man or women)
that you will meet and that will offer
you the other 20% which is lacking in your
relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20%
looks really good when you are not getting it at
all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be
tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you
have, thinking that you will get something better
with the other 20% that you WANT.

But as the reality has proven, in most cases, you
will always end up with having the 20% that you
WANT and loosing the 80% that you really need and
that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and
NEED in your life.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what
you don't have. "Wow, this girl in my office is a
real looker. But it's not her Winona Ryder
features that got me. I'm crazy about her because
she's also understanding, intelligent, tender -
so many things that my spouse is not."

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a
man who will be more charming or sensitive. More
alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater
appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will
need you and pursue you and go loco over you more
than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or hisband is perfect. Because a
spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking
for. So adultery takes place when a husband or
wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your
wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk
who has a cheery laugh no matter what she says:
"I broke my arm yesterday, hahaha..."

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers
and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you
may fall for a fresh smelling young sales
representative that visits your office in a sharp
black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil cut
skirt, or because your husband is the quiet
type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an
old college flame who has the makings of a talk
show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have !

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100%
that represents all the years that you have been
with each other. The storms you have weathered
together. The unforgettable moments of sadness
and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you
have made to love the other. The wealth of
memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start lookign for what
you don't have.

But faithfulness happens when you start thanking
God for what you already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!

About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that
perennially peeks through the door of the first
class cabin, obssessed with what he's missing?
"They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food
is served in porcelein! Wow, their seats recline
at an 80 degree angle and they've got personal videos!"

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire
trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget
about what the world says is first class. Do you
know there are many first class passengers
who are miserable in first class --- because they
are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right
now, wherever you are, you are first class!
---

Quote:

Do not look back and ask why,
look forward and ask why not?